How Important Is Romance In a Relationship?

Humans are social creatures. We value human interaction and developing close personal relationships. Perhaps the most significant relationship we have is the bond we share with a partner or spouse. But how important is romance in this relationship?

The results of a recent Statista survey sheds light on the almost universal significance of romance in relationships. They may even make you question the assumptions of men’s versus women’s perspectives on the significance of romance in a relationship. Discover how romance stacks up in relationships.

1. Vast Majority of People Find Romance To Be a Vital Part of Relationships

Romance can be described as the expression of one’s strong affections, or one’s deep and strong emotional desires to intimately connect with someone. As shown in the chart below by adding up the first three columns, 90 percent of respondents in a recent survey agree that romance in a relationship is important. From these results, it’s clear that romance holds a strong significance and is an almost universally hoped-for element of a relationship.

2. Romance May Affect Whether or Not You’re in Love

Over one-third of the survey’s respondents – 36% –  indicated that they would not be in love if the relationship lacks romance. This is important to consider. Romantic attachment signals a strong desire to connect at a profound level and helps fuse the exclusive bond we share with our partner.

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3. The Significant of Romance Heightens As a Relationship Grows (Gender Plays a Role, Too)

Romance, at any stage of a relationship, helps solidify our bond and reminds us of our relative uniqueness to our partners. Notably, the study revealed that most respondents believe that romance’s level of significance in a relationship grows as the relationship grows.  

These results also show notable differences based on gender. For example, nearly two out of five men noted that they could not feel love without romance, while more women than men indicated that romance was not as vital.

These findings challenge assumptions that women universally seek romance more than men. And, it also seems to hint that perhaps men might not be as single-minded in their expression of love and romance outside of sex.

Final Thoughts

This survey underscores our belief and confirms what we see when doing therapy with couples in DC. That is, many individuals find romance as an essential part of their relationships. However, the significance of a romantic relationship can have a different meaning for you versus your partner or spouse. If it’s important to you but is absent in your relationship, it can have a profound negative effect on you and your relationship.

Said another way, a loss of romance can help explain current challenges in your relationship.

Putting romance back into your relationship is possible. Through Marriage and Couples Therapy and a high level of commitment and growing respect for each other, our DC marriage and couples therapists can help you to take the necessary steps to achieve warmth and connection in your relationships. We also combine specialties and offer gay and lesbian couples and marriage therapy.  

Contact us today if we can be of help to you and your relationship.

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